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Friday Five – “HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!” she sings maniacally…

Posted in Church, Friday Five, Joy, Mental Health, Music, Quiet, Seasons, TV, tagged , , on December 12, 2025| 2 Comments »

I’m feeling very festive-song-in-minor-key today. It’s been a good week, but a busy one, and the busy isn’t really over until Sunday at noon-ish. My body is giving me small warning signs, so I figure I have about 5 days before it absolutely crashes unless I get some slow-down soon. Noted. My planner on Sunday afternoon reads “NOTHING NOT A DAMN THING.” So that’s where we’re at.

  • The correct Advent greeting. I love it every time Rev. Joseph Yoo shows up in my feed.
  • If someone rich wants advice on what to do with their money, Bryan Fuller and the cast of Pushing Daisies are ready to give us more antics at the Pie Hole! I NEED SEASON THREE!
  • Busy seasons have me sitting at the keyboard more often than usual. I just play through my theory books or some Bach variations – predictable, methodic, simple. Instrumental and ambient music are great stress relievers, which this piece explores beautifully.
  • Speaking of ambient music, I’m playing in the Joan of Bark Fest tomorrow with Wenepa. It will not be the same without Des, but I know we’ll still make some beautiful sounds together. Come see us if you’re local!
  • The James Garfield Miracle is one of my favorite things that happens every year, and I want y’all to know about it.

And an extra bonus at the end of this busy, busy week. Because The Great Unfuckening is nigh, and I feel like mine is going to be a doozy. My brain is so tired, and my stockpile of fucks-to-give is quickly dwindling.

Next week’s schedule is much calmer. It’s still busy and social – just not every day. There are real pockets of rest on the horizon, and I am excited about that.

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Challenge Complete – Libro.fm

Posted in Books, Bookshops, Mental Health, Reading Challenges, Resolutions, tagged , , , , on December 11, 2025| Leave a Comment »

Prime audiobook reading view

While I will definitely exceed my overall reading goal of 180, I may not complete many of my reading challenges this year. Part of the reason for this is that I added the extra challenge of only counting a book once (i.e., not allowing it to count for prompts on different challenges). But also, I have been more of a mood reader this year, which, while delightful and amazing in its own right, doesn’t lend itself easily to meeting more structured challenges.

I finished the Libro.fm challenge, though. 

I think this is the easiest one for me because I go into it knowing it has clear limits. Most of the time that I spend listening to audiobooks is in the car (although a few of these got finished at home when I just couldn’t wait until the next commute to hear the rest), so I’m mostly confined to the hours I spend driving. Knowing I have a smaller window of time to work toward the goal makes me more intentional with this challenge. I typically only check out or buy audiobooks that fit the prompts, especially during the first half of each year. Also, at 24 books, it’s one of the shorter challenges. As long as I finish two a month, success is a given.

I’m going to list all the books I read, but I’ll also comment on some that stood out.

  • Read a bookseller-recommended audiobook – Great Big Beautiful Life by Emily Henry, narrated by Julia Whelan. I love Emily Henry, and Julia Whelan is one of my favorite narrators, so this was almost guaranteed to be a winner for me. It turned out to be one of my favorite books I’ve read from this author overall. It is not just a romance; there are also elements of mystery, family relationships, and mental health issues scattered throughout. The dynamic of struggling with ambition, competence, and competition was also really well written.
  • Listen to an audiobook by an indigenous author – Ceremony by Leslie Marmon Silko. I read this with one of my book clubs a year or two ago, and I much prefer the written copy. I had to rewind a lot with the audio.
  • Listen to an audiobook mentioned on the Libro.fm podcast – Catalina by Karla Cornejo Villavicencio
  • Listen to an audiobook by an LGBTQIA+ author – Under the Whispering Door by TJ Klune. I have loved everything by TJ Klune I have read, and this was no exception. One critic referred to it as “A Man Called Ove meets The Good Place,” and I concur. It is a gentle, beautiful imagining of the afterlife and found family, and I adored it.
  • Read an audiobook published before you were born – The Sign of Four by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
  • Listen to an audiobook by a disabled author – Out on a Limb by Hannah Bonam-Young. Sweet rom-com with really lovable characters.
  • Listen to an audiobook by an author of Asian and/or Pacific Island descent – Trust Exercise by Susan Choi
  • Read an audiobook about a historical figure and/or event – The Briar Club by Kate Quinn
  • Listen to an audiobook by a Black author – I’m so (Not) Over You by Kosoko Jackson. The dialogue in this book was great. Charming and fun.
  • Read an audiobook from your Libro.fm wishlist – The Notebook: A History of Thinking on Paper by Roland Allen
  • Listen to an audiobook by a South West Asian and/or North African author – The Lion Women of Tehran by Marjan Kamali. This beautiful and heart-wrenching story of friendship and how it changes, specifically within the cultural shifts of Iran across decades, was one of my favorite books I’ve read overall (audio or otherwise) this year. I thought Kamali couldn’t top The Stationery Shop, but I think this one did.
  • Read an audiobook adapted into a TV series or movie – It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover
  • Read a winning audiobook from our 2024 Bookseller Choice Awards – The Third Gilmore Girl, written and narrated by Kelly Bishop (Ha! The first draft of this post, I typed her first name as Emily. Glad I caught that.). What a grand life she has led! I loved every moment of this book. 
  • Read at least 10 minutes of an audiobook every day for a week – The Heaven and Earth Grocery Store by James McBride
  • Listen to an anthology or short story collection – Her Body and Other Parties by Carmen Maria Machado
  • Listen to an audiobook by a Latine author – Clap When You Land by Elizabeth Acevedo. I laughed and cried so hard throughout this book. The cadence of Acevedo’s prose is perfect. 
  • Listen to an audiobook from an independent press – The Book of X by Sarah Rose Etter. I don’t know who told me it was body horror year (I picked it, so I have no one to blame but myself, but still), but I think I need a break from this genre. It was good, but…whew.
  • Listen to an audiobook by a transgender author – Nevada by Imogen Binnie
  • Listen to a genre outside your comfort zone (i.e., true crime) – The Devil in the White City by Erik Larson
  • Read an audiobook about caring for mental health – Awestruck: How Embracing Wonder Can Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Connected by Jonah Paquette
  • Listen to a banned book – Last Night at the Telegraph Club by Melinda Lo. This book explores the intersection of Chinese immigrant culture and a young girl coming out and coming of age in the 1950s (during the McCarthy-era red scare). The character development was solid, and I enjoyed it a lot.
  • Reread an old favorite on audio – The Little Prince (abridged) – by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, read by Richard Gere and Haley Joel Osment. My last Audible purchase. I just couldn’t resist hearing those two read one of my favorite stories. 
  • Preorder an audiobook and start it on release day – Murder at Gulls Nest by Jess Kidd
  • Share Libro.fm with a friend or family member – Blood Over Bright Haven by M.L. Wang. This was the first selection of a new fantasy book club at my local bookstore. The discussion was lively and fun, and I think I’m really going to like this group. The book was phenomenal – worth every single bit of the hype. The world-building was seamless without extraneous exposition, and the characters were nuanced and realistic. It explored colonization, racism, caste systems, social justice, misogyny, religious dogma, etc, No spoilers, but I loved the ending.

So that’s my audio-reading year! 

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Spoiler Alert

Posted in Food, Home, Mental Health, Quiet, Resolutions, Seasons, Shelfies, Wonder, Work on December 2, 2025| Leave a Comment »

I’m super psyched about next year’s theme word. I have a post planned about it for New Year’s Eve. But I can’t wait that long.

Spoiler – it’s “cozy.”

This isn’t really a new theme or value for me. I leaned pretty far into cozy the year I explored what it meant to be at home in the world. Quiet and cozy went hand in hand. It’s seeped pretty steadily into wonder this year.

And for the past 20 years, I’ve been working in housing, helping people find ways to feel as cozy as possible in their home away from home.

Throughout the year, I’m going to be looking at how I can make my spaces (physical, social, emotional, mental, etc.) cozier. I’ll also excavate some of the more negative aspects of the definition of cozy, particularly when it acts like a verb.

This month, I want to take the time to acknowledge and honor what I’m already doing. I’m not sure if this statement of my intentions will be the only post about it in December, or if I will find more to say. But in the spirit of Advent, I’m paying attention to how coziness is already having an impact on how I interact with the world.

The whimsy of the ever-present office bats who change hats with the season. Sharing baked goods with coworkers and friends. Making this soup just as soon as possible. My nightly tea ritual.

The many choices of ways to get warm should the need arise (it rarely does, but I’m so ready for it).

What does cozy look like to you?

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Friday Five – Not-So-Long November

Posted in Friday Five, Mental Health, Music, Wonder, Work on November 14, 2025| Leave a Comment »

Happy November! These first couple of weeks have been a flurry of jury duty, UNT Fall Preview, interviews, and writing. It’s hard to believe the month is almost half gone already.

  • It’s the end of an era! The very last Let It Be Sunday from Joy the Baker. I will miss these weekly joyful check-ins, but I know there are more wonders on the horizon.
  • Spiderdead was beautiful this year, and the proceeds go toward Pridenton’s Therapy Scholarship Program, launching in January. It’s not too late to donate!
  • An international student we know just received funding to continue with her studies here, and then was bitten by a dog and had to have a rabies shot. Please help with the costs if you can. 
  • I always love dark cello playlists, but this has been my jam this week. It’s so soothing. I also like to think it informs those who walk into my office that 1) yes, I would love to help, so come sit around the imaginary fire pit and discuss what you need, but with enough foreboding that they also realize 2) do not fuck around because you will indeed find out. 
  • “You don’t think your way out of burnout. You restore your way out — by rebuilding the energy, safety, and nourishment your body needs to believe again.” I needed to read this piece from The Good Trade today.

I hope you’re having a good month so far. Happy weekend, friends!

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November 2025 TBR

Posted in Alive, Books, Getting It Together, Joy, Mental Health, Reading Challenges, Resolutions, Seasons, tagged , , , on November 6, 2025| Leave a Comment »

There’s no way the whole list would fit in one picture. This is one of several stacks. I’m not sad about it.

This November feels weird. There are a lot of changes afoot in my life – some potential, some already in motion. So that’s a big part of it. But it feels like the year should be over already. And also that it just started. I feel like I’m in a weird loop. Time is a construct.

I’m also in the unique position of actually having already completed most of my resolutions for the year. My brain is ready to move on, but there are still two months to go and other resolutions to, well, resolve.

To that end, the November TBR is mostly a continuation of the October theme – a list of books to finish out my reading challenges. I recognize that it’s a bit unhinged in length. However, I have finished a few on the list already (on account-a already having met with two book clubs and also some of these were started as part of the TBR for previous months and I’m just now finishing them up). And my car book is not on this list at all because I’ve been waiting patiently for the audio of Cackle by Rachel Harrison to become available at the library and it finally did. Plus I’m starting off the month re-reading Legends and Lattes and Bookshops and Bonedust because I’m going to a book signing and getting Travis Baldree’s third book in the series – Brigands and Breadknives – this month!

I’m a bit all over the place. And I kinda love it. If my reading life isn’t bursting at the seams, am I even really alive?

Book Clubs

Bad Bitch Book Club Challenge

Overeducated Women With Cats Challenge

52 Book Club

Okay. This is the big one. Buckle up. This will definitely bleed into December.

Whew. That’s a lot.

The good news is that, if I manage to even read half of this list before the end of the year, I will still achieve my overall reading goal of 180 books (and then some). Yippee!

I hope you get to read as many books as you want this month.

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October 2025 TBR

Posted in 31 Days, Books, Mental Health, Reading Challenges, Resolutions, tagged , , on October 1, 2025| 2 Comments »

“I’m so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers.”
Anne of Green Gables, L.M. Montgomery

This is the first October in a while that I’m not even attempting a 31 Days project. A few days ago, I mused on what I could do, but I dismissed the thought pretty quickly. I feel like I have enough projects underway. I’m satisfied with the number of goals I’m already working toward at this point in time. I did entertain the idea of talking through the process of taking a project from idea to completion, but…I don’t wanna. At least not right now.

I have a ridiculous number of library books checked out and on hold. I console myself with the knowledge that I’m returning about the same number as I check out each time I go. I’ve been reading up a storm lately – the streak continues! I don’t know if it’s due to an actual increase in focus or if it’s comfort-seeking due to the state of the world. Either way, both are typical anxiety responses for me, so that’s where I’m at.

Here’s what’s up next. I’ve started a lot of these already, so I should be able to complete quite a chunk of this list this month. 

Book Clubs

Two of my book clubs are reading books that I read with other clubs previously, so it will be fun to hear what a different group of folks has to say about each one. Ah, the joy of multiple book clubs!

  • The Women by Kristin Hannah – probably won’t re-read but excited to talk about it with this book club!
  • James by Percival Everett – ditto on the probably not re-reading it (although the audio was pretty great – maybe I will give it another listen at some point), but I’m also excited to talk about it again
  • Her Body and Other Parties by Carmen Maria Machado – fulfills both the choose-your-own-adventure spooky selection for book club and a Libro.fm prompt (see below)
  • Impossible Creatures by Katherine Rundell – this month’s theme is colorful covers!
  • On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen – reading with my financial literacy community – fantastic so far, although some of the chapters are more heavily focused on women with children than I expected. I may not be the primary audience, but I’m still learning valuable things from it.

The end of the year is nigh, and I’ve got some reading challenges to finish up! There are so, so many prompts left to finish, but hope springs eternal. This month, my goal is to at least make an impressive dent in what I have left of Nowhere’s Book Bingo (including bonuses) and the Libro.fm Listening Challenge. 

Nowhere

Libro.fm

  • Listen to an audiobook by an indigenous author – Ceremony by Leslie Marmon Silko
  • Read an audiobook about a historical figure and/or event – Kingmaker by Sonia Purnell
  • Listen to an anthology or a short story collection – Her Body and Other Parties by Carmen Maria Machado
  • Listen to an audiobook from an independent press – The Book of X by Sarah Rose Etter
  • Listen to an audiobook by a transgender author – Nevada by Imogen Binnie
  • Listen to a banned book – A Court of Mist and Fury by Sarah J. Maas

I recognize that I’m probably not going to make it through all of these this month (unless some generous benefactor wants to pay me to read so I can quit my job and devote my whole life to it – I’m open to that), but I enjoy having a plan mapped out, even if it blatantly ignores all semblance of reality and the sticky construct of time.

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Friday Five – Yay We Made It

Posted in Alive, Food, Friday Five, Fun, Hope, Mental Health on August 22, 2025| 2 Comments »

Happy Friday, friends. We made it. 

Here are some short reads and happy news that have made things easier for me this week/month.

  • A wonderful gift in my inbox this morning in the Shondaland newsletter – Rachel Simon’s series on moments and characters in TV that make us feel less alone. She’s specifically focusing on Grey’s Anatomy, and I especially like this one, but it would be easy to make the point for so many shows. 
  • I appreciate this article on The Tyranny of Being Reachable so much. I feel this in my bones. “In today’s culture, your responsiveness equals your worth. It’s a proxy for your love, your professionalism, your care.” And a paragraph down from that – “You’re not unreliable. The human brain just wasn’t built for this.” Thank you, Miski Omar from The Guardian. Thank you. 
  • Simplified’s fall collection comes out next week. This includes 2026 planners, and I’m delighted that they brought back the bookbound ones this year!
  • And finally, another thing I’m looking forward to – Modern Mrs. Darcy’s Fall Book Preview. September 18. You know it’s on my calendar.

Tonight we have our Summerween (Summer Halloween, if you will. Halloween is forever.) cookbook club. I made Butterfinger fudge because the colors match the theme, and I made a nice cheat-y recipe. Still delicious. It really is easy to make a passable fudge as long as you have a combo of sugar, milk, fat, and cocoa. Or, in this case, sweetened condensed milk (sugar and milk) and chocolate chips (fat and cocoa). 

I hope you have a great day and restful weekend.

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August (and probably most of September) 2025 TBR

Posted in Books, Food, Getting It Together, Hope, Mental Health, Quiet, Reading Challenges, Resolutions, Revolution, Shelfies, What I'm Into, Wonder, Work, tagged , , , on August 5, 2025| 2 Comments »

I’m sad today. My friend Des died. He was a gentle, kind person, and the world is worse without him in it. 

So much of my own grief and general sadness processing is so internal that it is a challenge for me to understand those who work these things out socially. Understanding is not necessary for acceptance, though, so I’m leaving this here as a reminder to myself not to isolate too much, for their sakes.

There’s a lot going on otherwise, too. Work and life and the world are all pretty overwhelming right now. 

One of the things I love about reading is that it’s not just a pastime. It’s a comfort, a balm, an inspiration, an excitement, a focus.  

Any month is a good mood-reading month, but reading exactly what I need at the time I need it is especially essential right now. There are a lot on this list, so this will likely extend into September. 

Book Clubs

Talking about books with other people is one of my favorite things.

Recommendations

I love when someone lends me a book they think I’ll like. I automatically feel closer to them when I read it. And then I get to see them and bond over what we liked about it when I give it back to them.

New Books

Ah, the excitement of a new release! I enjoy being among a book’s first readers (even if that group is in the millions). It’s a specific part of the larger global-ish book community that I particularly enjoy. It inspires me to keep working so that I may be able to experience it as an author someday. 

Also, I need to get these back to the library so folks in my larger local-ish book community who have them on hold can read them, too.

Series

When an author develops their characters well (or builds a fascinating world, or tells a great story), I will read (and sometimes re-read) every book in the series. I just can’t get enough.

Romance(ish)

When I need something lighthearted where everything works out in the end or at least a reminder that sometimes things do work out. If we can subvert some tired expectations and/or gender roles, throw some sunshine into a grump’s life, or redeem a villain – even better!

Comfort Reads

A bit of a catch-all category for anything homey, whimsical, charming, cozy, or quirky, these are tea and a warm blanket in book form. The characters are lovable, the storylines are typically low-risk/high-reward, and there is a general sweetness to all of it that is particularly useful when I feel like that sweetness is lacking everywhere else. Or there’s just really good food involved/promised.

Suspense/Mystery/Hardship/Oh My

When I need a reminder that things could always be worse and the stakes could always be higher (and historically/currently are for others). 

Inspiration/Motivation/Reflection

When I don’t just want to be reminded that things could be worse but also want to know more about what I can do about it.

As always, I reserve the right to read every book or no book on this list. Wherever the wind takes me.

Lots of love to you and your people, friends.

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July 2025 TBR

Posted in Books, Church, Getting It Together, Home, Mental Health, Reading Challenges, Resolutions, Revolution, tagged , , , , on July 2, 2025| 3 Comments »

First, in case anyone’s forgotten where I stand on things like welcoming the stranger and protecting the most vulnerable and not making money into an idol by screwing over everyone else to give tax breaks to the least vulnerable (otherwise known as generally following Jesus, not just the shallow husk of a god capitalist Americans have created in their image), there’s nothing beautiful about this bill – call your House representatives today and tell them to vote no and also to feel free to publicly shame their colleagues who are voting in favor of it. Loudly. With pointing.

*deep breath*

Now on to the books.

This month, I’m saying goodbye to Everand (formerly just Scribd). It has changed in the last year, and I’m not enjoying the new way they offer the service. It took me a couple of months to even figure out the new structure, and I still find it clunky.

It sucks a little that, with the cancellation, I’m losing titles that I’ve paid for. But the only unlocked title I still have on it that I am interested in and haven’t finished is Words Are My Matter, and I’m going to end up buying a printed copy of that one anyway. So I let it go. As just another subscription (especially one where the unused unlocks expire at the end of the month with no refund), it’s not something I’m interested in anymore. 

Speaking of lack of interest, I’ve been in a bit of a reading slump lately, which is unusual for me in summer. I think between the worry about my car issues, my budget changes, this country’s nonsense, and my parents’ health, I’ve just been blank and unmotivated in general for anything else. I’m going to carve out a little time this weekend to see if I can find something that holds my scrambled attention span long enough to finish it. 

Maybe something from a previous TBR this year? Maybe a book off my shelves at home that I haven’t read yet? Maybe some of these?

Book clubs:

Other books I’m looking forward to/need to take back to the library:

What are you reading these days?

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Friday Five – Finding Hope in a Mad World

Posted in Beauty, Church, Denton, Friday Five, Fun, Getting It Together, Hope, Joy, Lucky, Mental Health, Wonder, Work on June 13, 2025| Leave a Comment »

Happy Friday, folks! June is up and running! We are three down/ten to go with orientation sessions for new students and their parents this week, so it’s been busy at work. And tonight is Pridenton’s Night Out, and my church has a booth, so that’s my Friday night. Luckily, I have a few days off next week to go hang out with my parents, so that’s something to look forward to.

Additionally, this has been a great morning:

  • My sister came to visit at work (she is going on a trip and wanted to take her friends some of UNT’s special coffee blend from Voltage) and we got to have coffee and bagels together.
  • I got some excellent news that is really going to make my financial life easier.
  • I was able to help two students who were struggling/anxious about housing next year get exactly what they need.
  • One of my staff who has been on a tour with the UNT acapella choir is back and I get to hear his stories soon.
  • I get to have lunch on the square with the office folk today.

Here are some things I’ve enjoyed reading in the last few weeks (months? It’s been a while since I’ve done one of these):

  • As a member of Tori Dunlap’s 100K Club (shameless plug) (which I originally typed “shameless plum” – I’m so hungry and also I may have just given myself an idea for a children’s book), I have been thinking a lot about value categories when it comes to my budget. These are the things that aren’t needs but that I still make room for in the budget because they bring me joy or enrich my life in some way. When I first joined the community, I had office supplies + stationery + accessories on my list because I love them so much. While I have since begrudgingly admitted that maybe I don’t need a whole budget category for writing implements, gosh, I love a good pencil. 
  • I don’t know if “cozy” and “challenge” would be found together in any sentence I mutter (I lean more toward do-nothing cozy), but this list for summer is nice. Take your dog on a date? Come on, that’s adorable.
  • Joy the Baker’s guide to a joyful summer is more my speed when it comes to summer to-do lists. Gentle suggestions. Things that make life easier/more pleasant. And if you think I’m not looking for that banana malt icebox cake recipe in my inbox every single day, have we even met?
  • Everything about this is powerful and I love it and also I despise that we are living in times where two international students at Harvard singing “There’s a Place for Us” to honor Rita Moreno is especially poignant. I have a lot of feelings.
  • Speaking of things that give me a lot of feelings, OMG YAY.

I hope you have a lovely weekend full of whatever gives you the most peace.

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