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On Monday, I talked about responsible ways to get rid of things. But my favorite way is not to get rid of it at all, but rather to find a better way to use it. I am a shameless repurposer (is that a word? Well, it is now). 

Here are 5 things that I can almost always find a use for in my home:

  • Any shelf or shelving system. I’ve constantly got books and mementos and baby plant cuttings that need to be given a permanent home, so a shelf has to be thoroughly useless before I will get rid of it. I have a short shelf in my living room that is literally half the shelf it used to be. The top was too damaged to salvage, so I sawed it off, and now it’s three shelves instead of five, and it works just fine that way. If a shelf doesn’t fit in my home, it will probably fit in my office at work, or I know someone else who can use it (ah, one of the many benefits of having bookish friends). 
  • Jars. Whether they’re Mason jars I bought when I was going through my canning phase or random jars that held sauce or some other pantry staple, I tend to accumulate a lot of them. They’re handy to use as vases or twinkle light holders. They help me organize by corralling pens, buttons, nails, or other small objects. They also make great to-go containers that I don’t need (or want) to get back (which also takes something off the to-do list of the person who uses it). 
  • Coffee mugs. Again, there are so, so many. Of course, the best use for coffee mugs is holding coffee, but I don’t really need more than one of those at a time (usually). I use them as pen/pencil holders. They personlize my bookshelves. There’s one on my desk at work that holds little knick knacks that people give me that I don’t want sprawled all over the desk.
  • Heavy objects. These inevitably become door stops or bookends. Several of my shelves are open on the ends, and they are still able to house my books without peril due to a jar of pennies, a decorative box filled with mixed tapes from my childhood, and other assorted heavy objects. My closet door in my bedroom is held open by an old boot with a leftover brick from my patio in it. It may be unconventional, but it does the trick.
  • Random cute items. I am not exactly a minimalist (although I really love Cozy Minimalist Home and all things Myquillyn Smith. Life goals, sort of), but I’m not a maximalist either. As in life, I also need some breathing room in my home. But then there are the random cute things. Cow salt-and-pepper shakers. A miniature plushy of Lucky the Squirrel (UNT’s unofficial mascot). Felt roses that a friend made. So many things make great decorations. I’m ten times more likely to display the art my friends make as I am to put up things that were store bought (although I have been know to repurpose those in my own art projects). If I love something, but I already have a more functional option that I actually use, I can still use it to make my home cozier by working it into my design plan. 

I hope you have a great weekend, friends!

I’m writing about keeping house for 31 days.

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Day 2 of Keeping House is a list of small things that can make my house look like I cleaned a lot.

The main reason that cleaning and tidying get away from me at home is time. There never seems to be enough of it for everything I want to do. On busy days, I just want to come home and stare at the wall. I don’t have the bandwidth for anything else once I’m finally finished for the day. But even at the end of less busy days, I want to spend the energy I have left doing creative things or reading or maybe seeing a friend I haven’t seen in a while.

Housework is often at the bottom of the priority list. After all, I’m usually the only person it affects, and most days, I just don’t care about it nearly as much as my raising would indicate I should. It’s the easiest thing on the to-do list to brush off. After just a little while, though, that brushing off really adds up, and I suddenly and desperately want a quick fix that significantly improves the overall state of my home.

Enter the microtask.

These are things I can do with a short amount of time (10 minutes or less) without using every single scrap of my leftover energy that still make a noticeable difference:

  • Laundry – start a load, move it to the dryer, or even put it away. Any of these smaller tasks can be accomplished in less than 5 minutes (well, maybe a little more on the third step if there’s a lot to be folded, but it’s still relatively quick).
  • Clear off a flat surface. Even big surfaces don’t ever take as long to clear as I think they will. For example, my dining table gets cluttered fast, and I put off clearing it because I think it will take too long (and thus psych myself out). When I actually clear it, though, I’m always surprised by how quickly I can do it.
  • Do a cup sweep. Are there coffee/tea cups lingering throughout the apartment? (Answer: Yes. Perpetually) Move them to the kitchen.
  • Speaking of the kitchen, wash all the dishes in the sink and put them away. What if there aren’t any dishes in the sink, you ask? Then it is truly a miracle day, and the microtask becomes a hearty pat on the back for a job already well done. Thanks, Past Suzanne!
  • Take out the recycling or trash. Somehow, there is always at least one box or bag that needs to go out, or several small bits that I can consolidate into one. 

Completing these microtasks isn’t going to fool anyone into thinking I have my domestic life together. But it does serve two important purposes – they get something done, and they remind me of how easy it is to get something done. 

And that, too, can really add up.

I’m writing about keeping house for the next 31 days. Click here to see the list.

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Alright. It’s time for fall. I’m tired of waiting. And by that, I do mean that I am wearing my boots and making soup and sipping hot apple juice (specifcally, Simply Apple or Sprouts brand) out of a tea mug in the evenings (my childhood’s answer to the predicament that we don’t have real cider here) and not waiting for it at all. Once again, I am bringing in autumn by sheer force of will. You’re welcome.

I have a fun (I hope) series coming up in October about keeping house. I hope that you will enjoy reading it as much as I’m enjoying writing it. I may not have enough content to last the whole month, but a daily post throughout October is currently the goal. 

I’ve also started my final curriculum for the year. I am ready to recognize that planning four curricula in one year was a bit unhinged. “Cozy” has been good. “Write a song and upload something to Bandcamp” was good (and a portion of it took a delightful turn that I didn’t predict, i.e., the upload being a wonderful group project). “Learn to play organ” was…ambitious and not at all feasible in the short timeline I gave it (what do you mean, my piano skills don’t completely translate?! Rude but ok). I’m still working on it, but I am appropriately humbled. 

As productive as these curricula have helped me to be, though…I’m so tired. I feel like each project is its own part-time job. And they’ve overlapped a lot, which makes it feel like even more work. So I’m trying to be more reasonable (which I despise) and gentler with myself (which I begrudgingly admit would be a good thing that makes being reasonable acceptable). 

Anyway…the fourth curriculum started later than planned and is going to extend into next year. My basic objective is to get my writing life back on track. I want to finish two projects – the aforementioned blog series in October and a second draft of my Fishbowl manuscript. But I also want to have a writing life that feels good and productive and creative and nourishing to me. One that is actually reasonable (ugh) for my current life and not just my imaginary life where I have no other responsibilities…like a job.

[Frankly, any one of the four curricula would have been more than enough progression for one year. But I’m already excited about the writing curriculum, and I’m not giving up on the organ (just relaxing about it), so we press on, and they will both just take as long as they take, and I’m also going to work on being okay with that.]

So that’s how life has been going. 

Here are some good reads from the last couple of weeks:

  • I enjoyed this reminder. “Seasonal living, to me, is about getting curious about those cues again and finding out what might happen when we let our food, light exposure, daily rhythms, and even our approach to rest change a little with the world around us.” Reading this sentence (and the whole piece) was like taking a long, deep breath.
  • I love Andi’s piece about learning to take up the space and time she needs, even outside the margins of her writing life. Great advice for all of us, especially those whose brains work differently than this world expects them to.
  • I adore Kate Bowler so much. I need this shirt.
  • I agree – The quiet life is the most underrated path to success! 
  • You are officially on notice – This is not only a Mamdani fan account but also an Abdul El-Sayed fan account. I just really appreciate people who listen and get shit done, and I would love to see what El-Sayed could do for our country.

I hope you have a great weekend, friends!

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Happy September! It’s totally in the 90s today. Temperature, not time. Although my 90s self fit right in with the way students dress these days. I expect to hear the faint sounds of Pearl Jam from their headphones when I walk by some of them. I approve.

Anyway, my skin doesn’t immediately feel like it will melt right off when I walk outside. Numerically, it’s a small difference, but it makes a big difference in my soul.

This week has been a roller coaster of emotion and happenings. A few notable notes for your Friday:

  • I’m very excited to announce the release of bio data fields, the first (hopefully of many) album from our collaboration Star Kiss Zen. Happy Bandcamp Friday!
  • I really love this piece on motherhood (and daughterhood) by Erin Williams – a critical analysis of the mother and the monster.
  • Another week of losses (I’m concerned that these posts are becoming the “Who Died This Week” chronicles. Do not like.). Gloria Steinem. What an impact she had on the world. So many of the freedoms we take for granted today are, at least in part, a result of her advocacy and influence. I shall celebrate her life by using my credit card that is solely in my name, and driving my car that is solely in my name, and living in my apartment with a lease that I wasn’t legally required to have cosigned by a man. In other words, I celebrate her life every day.
  • Wendell Berry also died this week. I really love his poetry and his essays on conservation and sense of place. I learned a lot about him from this article as well. Many people know “The Peace of Wild Things”, but some of my favorite pieces of his are the ones where he captured a snapshot of life, such as “They Sit Together on the Porch.”
  • To end on a lighter (but still serious, as I am very serious about such things) note, the Modern Mrs. Darcy team shares their favorite back-to-school supplies.

I hope you have a wonderful weekend!

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It’s been a sad week overall. Beloved icons have died. The death toll keeps rising due to flooding in Nepal, Tibet, and China. The summer blues have been particularly brutal this month, but I am proud of myself for doing a few things other than just working and for finding a little joy along the way.

  • One sweet thing that happened this week is the Simplified Fall Launch. Simplified has the perfect planner for next year, and I snagged one. It’s bookbound, saving me the frustration of dealing with spiral nonsense. It’s organized by calendar year, not academic year, which is how I organize my goals and thus my life. AND! It’s BERRY STRIPE, which is my all-time favorite Simplified pattern! I’m so happy about this.
  • Connor Storrie (Ilya on Heated Rivalry, for those not yet invested) now has a buzz cut instead of everyone’s beloved curls, and a large part of the fandom is in mourning. I have spent way too much time reading commentary on this man’s hair, and while I sincerely hope he is blatantly ignoring this chaos and just living his life and keeping his peace, I really needed the levity of caring about a celebrity’s locks this week. It reminded me of the HairYay!/HairNay! debates on the Michael Rosenbaum Message Board in the early days of Smallville fandom (MR played Lex Luthor, but I forgive you for not knowing that). In absolutely unsurprising news to any friends lingering from my earlier fandom days, I tend to fall on the same side of the debate as Out’s Ariel Messman-Rucker – Connor is a thoroughly attractive young man even with (dare I say – especially with) the shorn look. *cough*HairNay!forlife*cough*
  • I appreciate these notes on slowing down. I need this reminder sometimes, but it is hard to find things that make much of a difference that make sense for me. So much of the advice on slow living involves some sort of complete overhaul of how you live, and that’s not practical right now. I mean, someday I’m probably gonna make my own jam on the regular (it is on my goal list for my 50s, after all), but that day is not today (yes, I know it’s easy and delicious, but you know what’s easier and just as tasty? Buying already-made jam at the farmer’s market where I’m also buying other things and supporting local farms in the process). I like how this piece sticks to things like, “Maybe don’t schedule something social every single night of the week after you’ve already been social all day, every day” (I’m paraphrasing). Noted.
  • Very sad about Tim Curry’s death. I appreciate this compilation of tributes to him and his astounding body of work. What an iconic creative genius. 
  • And our Dolly Parton has passed. Jesus and I are in a bit of a fight about it. I know I’m curating my social media right, because all week, my feed has been flooded with memories and memorials of her kindness, grace, love, and her unwavering, fierce acceptance and protection of all. She is mourned by family, friends, co-conspirators, fellow musicians, fans, patriots, the American Library Association, and anyone who has ever needed to see a little hope in the world. Donate books and support/protect the vulnerable (with more than prayer – cash and tangible assistance – faith without works is dead, if you need a little help from James 2:26 to summon the strength, fellow believers). Maybe listen to her voice, bake yourself a little treat, and put it over ice cream this weekend. May we all live our lives even half as well as Dolly did.

I hope you have a restful weekend!

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The last few weeks have been hella busy. I need some serious downtime. I’m looking forward to a bookish weekend (and hopefully getting my wi-fi in my apartment fixed soon – it’s a whole saga). 

Notable things from the intrawebs in the past few weeks:

  • If you are looking for some reading that feels like summer, Modern Mrs. Darcy has suggestions! 
  • This is one of the best explanations of queerness I’ve ever read – from Dr. Devon Price.
  • In her online community and her book Burn the Haystack, Dr. Jennie Young helps readers identify rhetorical patterns in online dating profiles that are red flags or indicative of future problems. She recently got the question: “What if the red flags are already in your house?” I love her thoughtful answer.
  • I’ve been on a specific culinary kick lately – bean dishes you can eat with a spoon or scoop with a piece of crusty bread (my preference). One of my favorites is broccoli/cheddar beans. It’s like the soup but chunkier. Easy? Check. Fast? Check. Healthier than most of the take-out I get? Check.
  • And finally – Archer & Olive’s fall collection is out. I need another journal like I need a second nose, but look how pretty. I especially like the Reading Season ones.

I hope you have a great weekend, friends!

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This week has felt 14,325 days long. I even had Monday off work, but that feels so long ago, I can’t even remember what I did. 

Probably read? Probably cleaned? Maybe went to the library? Who knows?

Next week, I have Friday off to travel to the farm and help take care of some practical things for Mom and Dad. Then it will be August, and I’ll actually go back to working full weeks again (I’ve had a lot of time off in July, which has been nice). Maybe I’ll get to start working from home part of the time in August? Perhaps? We will see.

In the meantime, here are some things that have been helpful to me this week:

  • This may sound mean, but I’m so glad Nadia Bolz-Weber is bad at meditation. Me, too. But even stumbling at it is helpful, so I do it, even when I do it badly. “Not because after five minutes of breathing exercises the geopolitical situation improves. It doesn’t. But because it improves my spiritual bone density.” Well said.
  • In a reading slump? It happens. I had a big ol’ slump in April-May-June-ish. I still read, but not nearly as much as I wanted to. I just could not focus. Regardless of why reading slumps happen, though, eventually they subside. Usually. Sometimes they need a little push. Such as a Couch to 5K…but for reading. This is an amazing idea, and I love how detailed the plan is.
  • I am HEAVILY invested in the blossoming love life of Trenchfoot and Doughboy. Jessica introduced me to them, and I’m so happy. Team Trenchfoot. Doughboy needs to grow up if he’s going to be her baby’s father. Get it together, my dude. Riveted.
  • I have been planning to write a post about my summer bucket list for about a month. Reading isn’t the only thing that’s slumping in my world. So I’m just living vicariously through Joy the Baker’s lists – Part 1 and Part 2. I may still write my own (at this point, my list is just “Survive August in Texas”), but I also may just make a spin on her peach melba ice cream and call it a day. I think that’s good enough.
  • Speaking of sweet treats, this is on my list of things to try. It’s took hot in Texas right now to mail chocolate, but there’s a shop nearby that sells it. I feel an adventure coming up soon!

Edited to add: It’s National Tequila Day. Proceed accordingly.

I hope you have a good weekend, friends!

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This week, I puzzled out an issue and solved a problem that a transfer student had been worrying about all summer. I feel good about that. That’s my favorite thing that happened this week.

Also, smart people said/wrote some lovely things on the internet:

  • At the risk of turning my blog into a Mamdani fangirl account (sorry, not sorry)…his speech marking our country’s 250th.
  • Ann Patchett on Whistler, being a good literary citizen, and the best book coming out this year.
  • I love Andi’s piece on her evening routine – Plump Silence and Golden Light.
  • I want to print this out and hand it to every parent at orientation this summer – Gorgeous words on letting go by Addie Zierman.
  • Heather Havrilesky once again puts into words what I’m going through. Working with college students (and *ahem* also people in their 20s and 30s and sometimes 40s…when did I become the old person in the room?), I see them despair a lot, wondering if everyone is awful and everything is broken. Yes, in general, but also really no. There’s a lot of beauty and kindness below the surface. It takes some energy to see it, but if you’re already pouring vast amounts of effort into despair, maybe set aside a little of that for wonder and curiosity. It will make your life (and, dare to hope, your relationships) so much better. My life goal is to always remain curious about new ideas, new skills, and especially the people around me. 

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Happy July! I have the day off today, as I work for the state, and the holiday we would usually get at this time is on a Saturday this year. I’ll take it.

I’ve had a pretty easy week overall. In addition to having today off, I also took Monday and Tuesday off – just because – and I got a lot of reading and very little housework done and got to talk about books while in a pool on Tuesday. So…perfect days. I have a laidback party with some fun people this weekend, and then preparation for a reading retreat next weekend. Yay!

My seasonal depression is visiting. So far, it’s pretty mild this year. This is not a challenge, Derek (what I have named my seasonal depression. I feel like he would be a Derek. No offense if your name or the name of someone you love is Derek, of course. It’s just easy to yell in an exasperated manner.).

And yes, I do picture Derek from The Good Place when I yell it. Thanks for asking.

Here are some things that confused some of the summer sads this week:

  • Wednesday Adams is playing Klara in the screen adaptation of Klara and the Sun!!! And by Wednesday Adams, I do mean Jenna Ortega (which I had to google, because Jenny didn’t look right. Because it wasn’t). That is her real name. I’m too excited. I can’t be trusted to get names right.
  • One of my things-to-do-by-the-time-I’m-60 goals is to join an online book club. I should have been more specific. I have joined several. Technically, I am a member of at least three online book clubs, but I am having a hard time remembering to participate. I have online book friends and book groups, but I wanted to buckle down with one that reads and discusses a book each month. I was excited to discover that Kate Bowler has started one, and the first month is Shark Heart, which was on my radar to read for one of my challenges this year anyway. Added bonus – there are many ways to participate in this club. We’ll see how it goes!
  • One of these days, I’m going to give in and just make some Bala Baiana. It truly is everything I love in a candy.
  • “Obliterates” is a strong word, but I do enjoy Mamdani’s handling of the press. Almost as much as I appreciate that he actually does the job he was elected to do. The bar is so low, y’all.
  • Rachel Maddow’s concern about books that have been weeded is my favorite thing on the internet this week.

I hope you are doing well and get to do something fun this weekend!

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I was really looking forward to this being the first day I slept past 7:00 in what seems like a thousand years. I realize 7:00 is reasonable for many people, but when you naturally fall asleep (i.e., without sleep aid medication, which I don’t take unless I’m desperate) at 1:00-2:00 a.m., 7:00 is hella early. 

Guess when the very loud thunderstorm rolled through. 6:30. Six. Thirty.

Not cool, thunder. Not cool.

At least I didn’t have to get out of bed. I guess that’s something.

Here are some things on the internet I liked this week.

  • Today is Juneteenth, which marks the anniversary of the news of emancipation finally reaching Texas. To celebrate on this and any other day, please consider donating to the good work We Have Stories is doing in NYC. Also, please consider looking at your own community and joining in the good work being done there. Also, please consider starting the good work if you don’t find any being done around you.
  • I love this piece on Georgia O’Keefe.
  • This whole quote – “Things can be hot in a book boyfriend and an absolute red flag in a real boyfriend. This is the nature of fiction.” (This is the smallest example of that, but like in romance novels men are always tilting her chin up with their finger. Touch me like that?!?!?!?! Put your fucking FINGER under my CHIN to get my attention?!?!?! I’m sorry but I would karate chop your throat. Sexy in a book. Would drive me crazy in real life.) “ I feel seen.
  • One of my great joys is following professional dancers (specifically, partnered dancers, but I am a sucker for any kind of dance) on Instagram. Emeline Rochefeuille is one of my favorites, and this is so cute.
  • While my new position did come with a slight pay bump, it was definitely a downgrade in responsibility. I went from supervising a staff of 12 to not being a supervisor at all. HIGHLY RECOMMEND even a temporary career downgrade if you are feeling those signs of burnout (…or even if you just want to. Turns out, you don’t have to wait until you are already at your wit’s end to do something that makes your life better.). Even if it had been a lateral move financially, it still would have been worth it for all the added peace it has brought to my private life.

I hope your Friday was good, and I hope you have a great weekend!

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